Contrary to my previous beliefs that I had before, facing my worst fear did not result in the Earth stopping from rotating, nor in the Sun failing to rise again and bring a new day, full of hope and beauty. I’ve finally realized that the only after-effects of such an event that only I know about are only released in my internal world, in my mind… the rest of the world moves and feels the same.
No one knows what’s happened – I did in fact have my greatest „fear” be realized these last few weeks and… I’m still alive. And well. And loved, and cared for. And myself, except a better version because I faced my then-demons and I „survived”. By definition an event like that can make you stronger… and I’m left without a biggest fear right now – thankfully. I experienced a loss that has hurt me, but the hurt was lessened by the fact that, by that point, I had realized I was the one who consciously chose to risk, to fight a seemingly already-lost battle, yet I cared so much about the „cause”… In all the moments leading up to that I could have:
a. spoken out to clarify things
b. stopped the whole thing
c. given up fighting and focusing on it, but I didn’t.
That wouldn’t have been me. And, more than pride or just wanting to win, to me it was a natural choice and to me it was always obvious that I should go for it. It was all noble, which is why I’m not blaming anyone, not even myself.
It was a choice. It is a choice. Including what I feel – it was all my choice, to know what that path involved, yet walk down that path anyway. Pesky little heart. How it fights for its causes, how it fuels me in cases like these… but I love it because it makes me who I am. I don’t know if it makes sense but despite the hurt that fighting for a cause like this may bring, I’m still proud of myself for staying true to who I am. This is me, all heart.
This is why for years I’ve had a wall surrounding it and I stopped myself from opening up too much. But right now today – it doesn’t matter anymore. It’s who I am, it’s part of me, it’s a lesson that I accept, because I’d rather not repeat. Not because I’m not starting to get good at this (sarcastic haha), but because I think I can express myself in better, more constructive and happier ways for me and the people involved.
So this is me making peace with this – and now that I’m at it, I’ve decided to start facing my small fears one by one. A nav piercing, dancing in public (finally!), expressing myself and letting myself be seen in general. Because I, for one, like what I have discovered in myself along the way. It’s a beautiful journey and that is why I’m looking for the best in others, always. Because it’s taken years to take down the wall protecting and hiding away my heart and the personal side of me, but to me it was worth doing so because it’s not just about bearing yourself for the world to see – concept which strikes fear in a lot of people’s hearts – but it’s about living fully, truly, accepting everything, letting it all in, every human being you meet on your path, every experience you take part in, every feeling that that yields…
I’m so deeply grateful for being here and having the chance to carry out this spiritual journey I’ve decidedly started a year ago. I’m immensely grateful for everything, every moment. Every little thing. All of it. It’s making me a better person and a better spirit – you should see how easy it is to sleep when, despite it all, your heart is lighter than ever before and when your spirit is at peace. I wish that for everyone, whether they consider themselves spiritual beings, or not.
To make peace with all that is and all that I am – this is the greatest blessing I’ve been granted yet.
#THANKYOUANGELS
P.S. Whoever you are, never forget what miracles it took to make you happen 🙂 Wouldn’t you rather focus on that instead of playing the blame-game each time something you perceive as bad happens? Think about it.
P.P.S. Thank you Gosia for the inspiration and I do promise to smile every day – see if I can get any grumpy Londoners to smile back :]